parenting

"Suffer little children to come unto me" (detail) by Juan Urruchi

Rediscovering Integrity for our Children

What is integrity? Integrity is a word that continues to fascinate me, and over the years the depth of its meaning grows within me. Originally, I understood the definition of integrity as an honest person. Later on, I realized that “integral” and “integrated” are forms of this word and have deeper meanings than just “honest” or “fair.” Our society considers […]

The Blessing of Scabs

I remember so clearly that day when my then-three-year-old realized that the place between her eyes, the place she had scratched so hard, was bleeding. It was the cause of much drama and concern. A band-aid wouldn’t work; it was too big and it “touched” her eyes. I ended up wadding up a little piece of toilet paper and sticking it […]

Don’t Ever Ask Dad to Babysit the Kids!

Dads should just never be asked to babysit the kids. It’s not because dad is not competent.  No, he’s able to do all the things the kids require, even if he has to use the trial and error method to figure out what seems obvious to mom. It’s not because dad doesn’t really want to spend time with the kids.  He loves […]

The Virtual Family: Connected or Disconnected?

Surrogate Gods, Surrogate Parents

It is a gross understatement to say that we live in trying times.  The Church and religious liberty are under constant attack, our country is divided, people are struggling to make ends meet, atheists are one of the fastest growing groups in our country and our families are under siege.  My intent is not to depress you, but focus your […]

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The Battle is Not Out There

Twenty years goes by quickly. This past week, my sisters and I met up with other members of our high school youth group for a reunion. The youth group had been a saving grace for all of us during those turbulent high school years. We supported each other, learned about the saints together, went on crazy trips together, and most […]

The World of Little Girls and Possibilities

It was not until I was sleeping in a pink ruffled bed in a pink walled room, surrounded by all things sparkly and pink, that I began to fully realize our enormous responsibility—as parents of daughters and as a society and Catholic community. Laying there in my niece’s bed, with my own girl in the neighboring bed, watching the light […]

My Number One Parenting Tip

A friend of mine came to visit last week with her small army of young children. We chatted while I slathered peanut butter and jelly on slices of wheat bread and threw them at the masses. Every five minutes, we filled requests for cups of water and changed diapers and broke up scuffles over broken toys. In between the commotion […]

Making a Pilgrimage with Kids in Tow

Before you think I’m a holy person, let me correct you; I’m not. And aren’t holy people the ones who go on pilgrimages? The word still strikes fear (or is that wonder?) in my not-raised-Catholic heart. It feels foreign in my mind, resounding with unattainable piety and perfectly behaved kids. Because, like it or not, the season of life I’m […]

Photograph © by Andy Coan

Being Humbled…Again…on Holy Thursday

That year, I had to go to the back of the church to nurse the baby, so I had a clear view of the front of the church after Father’s homily on Holy Thursday. He invited everyone forward to have their feet washed. “It’s a gift you give me,” he said, with a look that I had come to recognize. It’s […]

The World of Little Girls and Possibilities

It was not until I was sleeping in a pink ruffled bed in a pink walled room, surrounded by all things sparkly and pink, that I began to fully realize our enormous responsibility—as parents of daughters and as a society and Catholic community. Laying there in my niece’s bed, with my own girl in the neighboring bed, watching the light […]