Please Don’t Say You Are ‘Just’ a Mother!

The question arises at nearly every cocktail party. Folks hovering over the onion dip and meeting someone for the first time will inquire, “What do you do for a living?” The answer “I’m a psychiatrist” has a tendency to make the questioners nervous, since they fear the doctor will try to detect their neuroses on the spot. And English teachers […]

Joy, Encouragement and a Mother’s Love

One of the earliest memories I have of my mother, Sandi, is from when I was three or four years old.  It was during summer and we were living in our first home in Annapolis, MD.  I remember playing in the front yard with my mother and feeling very happy and safe.  I recall vividly the expression on her face – […]

My Mother’s Lessons in Love

Artwork © by Jef Murray

The first commandment was the first one I ever broke, although I didn’t know any better at the time. You see, I idolized my mother before I knew much about God. As she stormed through the house with her vacuum cleaner, I trailed along behind her, proclaiming, “You are the most beautiful woman in the world.” That was my early […]

Mama, Dress Up!

At a public event in our downtown area, families were mulling around on a Sunday afternoon. It was a hot, August day and people stopped to look at booths where hand-made jewelry was displayed, or to buy a cool drink or allow their preschool children to participate in art crafts. Waiting for a ballet number to begin on an outside […]

Daily Quote from Blessed Teresa of Calcutta

“But I feel that the greatest destroyer of peace today is abortion, because it is a war against the child, a direct killing of the innocent child, murder by the mother herself. And if we accept that a mother can kill even her own child, how can we tell other people not to kill one another?” (Blessed Mother Teresa of […]

Mother as a Human Being

We mothers can be so efficient. We can do laundry, clean a dirty kitchen, and calm sibling spats in between spooning Gerber’s best into our babies’ mouths. Once, just for fun, I wrote down everything I did during a one-hour period one morning. The list took up two pages. I often get wrapped up in juggling tasks, in accomplishing, in […]

Leave Them Wondering

Grandma advice is the best stuff in the world. “Katie, be a little mysterious and leave them wondering,” she told me as she expertly peeled potatoes with her perfectly manicured hands. I’d giggle and sip on Country Time lemonade at her kitchen table and dream about all the boys I would one day dazzle. Fast forward a dozen or so […]

The Mind of a Woman

Gazing into my newborn son’s eyes told me in an instant what I’d suspected for years: intellectual stimulation is not a prerequisite for contentment. What more could any woman want for than to be the recipient of this precious soul’s love and the provider of his care? The argument that to be “whole” a woman must also have a career lost […]