friendship

Finding Authentic Connection in a World Where We are Lost to Each Other

Last weekend, my husband and I schlepped the kids to the park and as we unloaded the kids, the dog, the bikes, and every other bit of unnecessary gear from our vehicle, a passenger van pulled up next to us.  The doors opened and out poured a half dozen kids looking to expend energy on the playground.  The driver of […]

"Creation of Adam" (detail) by Michelangelo

Setting Others Free to Love

When I was younger I was overly sensitive in my dealings with others. This hypersensitivity caused me to become offended easily and to refuse to show love to anyone I felt slighted by. Needless to say, this attitude brought about only more pain and it was only once I discovered that I was at fault in these perceived issues that […]

Being Worthy of Friendship

We have forgotten the meaning of many words, or, more dangerously, we have redefined the words. One of these words is the simple, ancient word: “friend.”  While I’m not going to accuse anyone of strategically conspiring to intentionally change the meaning, there has been a hijacking of the word to simply mean “someone who can look at your pictures and […]

A lesson of mercy, a story still being written

A few weeks ago, four of my friends and I had a mini-reunion. We have all gone our separate ways since college, and it usually takes a wedding to get us all back together. That was the case this time. As we were all traveling by car or plane to the wedding destination, one of my friends reminded us via […]

A Triple Chocolate Pound Cake

A Very Southern Weekend

I’m not from The South, unless you count Southern California (which you can’t), but I’ve been a resident of South Carolina for almost a decade.  It’s a place with a culture—which I mostly enjoy from the periphery, not having grown up here.  Just this weekend though, I had peek into an unfamiliar slice of Southern culture, thanks to a visit […]

Contagious Evangelists

There are people who just make the world more pleasant to live in.  I remember one such person from my first year in college.  Her name was Claire Crosetti.  She didn’t live in the dorm as I did, but it was a very small college and she came to visit now and then.  Everyone loved her.  Everyone.  I don’t even […]

Everyone Needs an Ethel

I love Lucy… Everyone does, right?  But you know who I also love?  I love Ethel.  Because without Ethel, Lucy wouldn’t have been able to devise or execute quite so many hair-brained schemes. Lucy needed Ethel—and who doesn’t? Everyone needs an Ethel!  Everyone needs an accomplice in fun, in worry, in difficult projects.  It would be handy if I could just step […]

White Gloves

Small Things Series: Little Things Can Make a Big Difference “White Gloves” by T. Thomas Mr. Jim gave me a pair of white, wrist-length, stretch dress gloves as a present when I became engaged to my now husband, David. At this, two things came to mind. First, I was surprised to receive anything from Mr. Jim, not expecting an engagement gift […]

When God picks your friends…

Our friends filled our bellies, but they what they really offered was friendship. Jesse and Dan’s ingenious modus operandi in securing our friendship was to feed us.  My husband, John, and I had moved to Baton Rouge, Louisiana for work, but we were lonely because our immediate family lived several states away.  We knew we needed community, but we didn’t […]

"Charity of St. Elizabeth of Hungary" (detail) by Edmund Blair Leighton

Want To Save The World? Start With The People You See Everyday

In June, I started a mother’s ministry at my 10,000 person parish and the response has been overwhelming. Though we began meeting over five weeks ago, every week I receive more requests from women who have heard about us and want to join the group. Here’s the thing I already knew, but my experience has confirmed: women are hungry for […]