family

Cultivating Community to Support Mothers

It’s Not Enough To Tell Mothers To Stop Whining And Learn To Love Motherhood, We Have To Cultivate Community To Help Them… In an article entitled How To Stop Whining And Learn To Love Being A Mother, the author, Anna Mussman, addresses a malaise that has settled over the discussion of motherhood via social media. It’s obvious, Mussman claims, from […]

A Helping Hand

Learning To Accept Help From Others

Back in 2006, shortly after I came into the Catholic Church, a friend and fellow parishioner shared an observation with me after Mass one morning which had a profound effect on me:  “Randy, I have noticed that you really enjoy helping people.  But, you are very uncomfortable when people try to help you.  By not allowing them the opportunity to […]

Man at Prayer

Learning to Accept God’s Will

Not long ago a priest shared some guidance with my wife and me that has been the cause of a great deal of conversation and reflection in our home.  In response to learning that we pray every day about our oldest son’s future and that he be healed of his autism, he encouraged us to pray first for acceptance. Let […]

The New Home Prepared for Us

Most of my musings about theology and spirituality come in the middle of ordinary tasks, and the story behind this post is nothing different. One morning over the Christmas holiday, my sister’s husband and I were emptying the dishwasher from the night before and putting all the dishes away in the cabinets.  I realized that Patrick knew exactly where everything […]

The Difference an Hour Can Make

I recall the Monday after Christmas two years ago when I had to work for part of the day to meet a few clients, tie up loose ends for the year and do some preparation for the coming year.  It was challenging to be pulled away from my family over the holidays, especially with my easily bored sons out of […]

"The Holy Family (detail)" by Murillo

Lessons from the Holy Family

The Feast of the Holy Family celebrates the holiness and joy of the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary and Joseph of Nazareth. Each year, this celebration occurs on the Sunday following Christmas Day, unless Christmas falls on a Sunday, then it falls on the following Friday—which it does this year! The Church wants us to see the important link between […]

Powerful Lessons from St. Joseph for Catholic Men in the New Year

As the father of a nineteen-year-old with high-functioning autism, I am sometimes challenged to give my oldest child the focus and patience he needs from me.  I frequently feel inadequate when I advise and guide my fifteen-year-old son through the minefields of today’s culture.  My loving wife should expect my best efforts as a husband, yet I often feel distracted […]

Christmas Mass at St. Peter's Basilica, Vatican City

Thinking About Christmas & Easter Catholics

I admit it: I love Disney World.  My parents took me as a child and my wife and I have taken our kids a few times.  The theme parks make me reminisce about the fun adventures I enjoyed as a young boy and I experience a degree of nostalgic longing every spring for my family to experience Mickey and friends […]

Acts of Kindness, the Goodness of People & Lessons Learned

I am blessed to be the father of a wonderful teenage son named Alex, who has high functioning autism. Our family has countless stories and experiences describing how Alex has touched our lives and made us better people, but that is not the subject of this post. The words you are about to read are meant to pay homage to the incredible […]

“Christ at 33” (detail) by Hofmann

Speak less, Do more

  When I was a child, I awoke many mornings and found my mother in the kitchen preparing breakfast or folding laundry, while she watched Protestant television evangelists preach the word of God. Some days, I stumbled downstairs to find her curled up on the couch, tears running down her face as she listened to the morning message. I caught […]