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Important Rules for Catholic Fathers

During a coffee meeting with a friend not long ago, he said, “You seem to have your act together on the fatherhood front. What’s your secret?” I was surprised and taken aback because I don’t think I have my act together at all. I don’t mean that out of false humility. I pray every day to be a better husband [...]

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A Timeless Lesson and the Burden of Sin

I have been thinking a great deal about my experience at Reconciliation this past Saturday. I felt an intense and unexplainable urge to go and confess my sins when I woke up that morning. I try to go every six weeks or so, but this was no routine visit to the priest for me. I needed to unburden myself of [...]

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Four Critical Rules for Catholic Fathers

It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father.—Pope St. John XXIII I often feel completely lost and befuddled as a Catholic father in today’s world. How do I set the right example? How do I help my sons grow up with a strong Catholic faith? How do I prepare them for [...]

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Passing Along All that is Noble and Worthwhile

I was blessed to grow up with great parents. We didn’t have much, but my parents made sure my sister and I had love, discipline, faith, strong values, and an appreciation for the value of hard work. My mother played a vital role in our family, as all mothers do, but I find as I grow older that I am [...]

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In the Company of My Catholic Brothers

“I am a rock. I am an island.” These words from an old Simon and Garfunkel song sum up how I viewed the need for close friendships for most of my life. The stubbornness and pride that had led me to walk away from the Baptist Church as a teenager had manifested themselves as a formidable wall around my heart [...]

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The Challenges and Joys of Modern Fatherhood

Sometimes I can almost imagine myself as a great father to my children… then I do something to mess it up. I vividly recall a past October when the boys and I welcomed my wife home from a five-day trip to California where she had been visiting her sister. What started out as my great adventure with the kids at [...]

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Stumbling Over My Pride

I stumbled badly over my pride yesterday, as I have done so many times in the past, and had a good laugh.  I saw the ironic humor in my own foolishness and frequent inclination to do things my way instead of God’s way.  Will I ever learn? About a month ago, I had the brilliant idea of writing a book [...]

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A Real Man’s Love Story

David Calvillo sat inside his van shaking. It was a Thursday evening, September 2008, in McAllen, TX.  He was in the church parking lot about to leave for the Benedictine Monastery of the Good Shepherd where an ACTS retreat was about to begin (ACTS: Adoration, Community, Theology and Service.) David did not feel he needed anything more than church on [...]

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The Waning Value of Men

I began my theological studies at a mainline Protestant seminary during the height of the third wave of feminism.  By that time, the classification of sex and gender into two distinct forms of male and female had been thrown out the window along with most moral distinctions regarding sexual activities.  And Feminist Theology had taken hold of every corner of [...]

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Seven Lessons Fathers Should Teach Their Children

Who Introduced You to the Lord? The first question I would like to pose, is simply this: “How did you come by your faith, whether it be weak or strong, new or old? Where and when did you first come to encounter Jesus and his glorious Gospel?” For many of us, the answer would be, “I first came to know [...]