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The Challenges and Joys of Modern Fatherhood

Sometimes I can almost imagine myself as a great father to my children… then I do something to mess it up. I vividly recall a past October when the boys and I welcomed my wife home from a five-day trip to California where she had been visiting her sister. What started out as my great adventure with the kids at [...]


Stumbling Over My Pride

I stumbled badly over my pride yesterday, as I have done so many times in the past, and had a good laugh.  I saw the ironic humor in my own foolishness and frequent inclination to do things my way instead of God’s way.  Will I ever learn? About a month ago, I had the brilliant idea of writing a book [...]


A Real Man’s Love Story

David Calvillo sat inside his van shaking. It was a Thursday evening, September 2008, in McAllen, TX.  He was in the church parking lot about to leave for the Benedictine Monastery of the Good Shepherd where an ACTS retreat was about to begin (ACTS: Adoration, Community, Theology and Service.) David did not feel he needed anything more than church on [...]

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The Waning Value of Men

I began my theological studies at a mainline Protestant seminary during the height of the third wave of feminism.  By that time, the classification of sex and gender into two distinct forms of male and female had been thrown out the window along with most moral distinctions regarding sexual activities.  And Feminist Theology had taken hold of every corner of [...]

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Seven Lessons Fathers Should Teach Their Children

Who Introduced You to the Lord? The first question I would like to pose, is simply this: “How did you come by your faith, whether it be weak or strong, new or old? Where and when did you first come to encounter Jesus and his glorious Gospel?” For many of us, the answer would be, “I first came to know [...]


Five Important Lessons from Saint Joseph

As the father of a teenager with high-functioning autism, I am sometimes challenged to give my oldest child the focus and patience he needs from me.  I frequently feel inadequate when I advise and guide my 12 year old son through the minefields of today’s culture.  My loving wife should expect my best efforts as a husband, yet I often [...]


Hectic Schedules, Quiet Reflection and a Timeless Lesson

In January 2007, I became a Eucharistic guardian at my parish, which is blessed to have perpetual Eucharistic adoration. This hour each week in the True Presence of Christ has been an incredible blessing in my life and the reflection and prayer time has been the inspiration for much of my writing. I distinctly remember going to Eucharistic adoration one [...]

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The Paradox of Help

Back in 2006, shortly after I came into the Catholic Church, a friend and fellow parishioner shared an observation with me after Mass one morning which had a profound effect on me:  “Randy, I have noticed that you really enjoy helping people.  But, you are very uncomfortable when people try to help you.  By not allowing them the opportunity to [...]


Seven Point Checklist for Catholic Dads

I was talking to a fellow dad over lunch recently about the challenges of raising kids today.  After the usual story swapping and a discussion about bad cultural influences, my friend left the table saying, “I need to get back to the office.  Next time we get together we should brainstorm a handy checklist for fathers so we won’t forget [...]

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10 Ways for Men to Increase Work & Family Balance

My wife got run off the road today. Some guy was in a big hurry and didn’t like the fact that Kathi had slowed down to merge onto the highway behind a school bus full of children. So he accelerated from behind her car, and drove up beside her, forcing her onto the berm. After almost causing multiple accidents, he [...]