The Spreading Cancer of Relativism and What to Do about It

Fr. Kevin Iwucha

Fr. Kevin Iwuoha

Moral relativism takes the position that there are no universal moral truths that can be said to govern all human behavior. Instead morality is relative to social, cultural, historical or personal circumstances. In this philosophy decisions would be based on: “When in Rome, do as the Romans do.”  “Your truth is not my truth.”  “Live and let live.”

How problematic is this philosophy, now prevalent in all areas of life? In a 2010 survey sponsored by the Knights of Columbus and the Marist Institute, young adult Catholics, between the ages of 18-29, were asked whether there are universal standards for morality. A whopping 82% said they believed that morals are relative. In practice this means: 63% of these young Catholics said they view same sex marriage as either “morally acceptable” or “not a moral issue”;  80% say sex outside of marriage is acceptable or not a moral issue; 67% see embryonic stem cell research as morally acceptable or not a moral issue; 64% say they are more “spiritual” than religious; and 61% say “it is OK for someone of your religion to also practice other religions.”

The survey indicates that our young people have given in to “political correctness” and are joining the “relative confusion” of the modern world.  Modernity has spawned a serious problem , which author Steve Wood (FamilyLifeCenter.net) describes as “the cancer of moral relativism.”

According to classical relativism, abortion is “right/good” because it is codified into the law of the land. But according to subjective relativism, guns are “bad,” even though they are legal and Constitutionally protected, because the media reports a “growing consensus against them.”

Relativism leads to moral chaos because it has taken away the foundation we have used for centuries in evaluating behavior. From this perspective, there cannot be a god, since God demands of us the Good which has been revealed.  “Relativism,” according to Fr. Kevin Iwuoha’s doctoral thesis, “Can be used to justify anything.”

We know that our passions, when unrestrained by self-discipline and virtue, can rationalize and justify even the most hedonistic and sadistic of behaviors.  This leaves young people floundering in a moral morass.

But there is hope through clear reasoning… and faith.

“Conventional relativism places the individual’s will subordinate to the will of the cultural majority,” says Fr. Kevin.  Those who point to the “rightness” of abortion say that the State has decided this issue and therefore “it’s a done deal.”  But this very tendency to look to a “higher authority” for clarity, points to the heart of the problem with relativism. We instinctively look for a “Higher Authority” who will define and clarify the murky waters disguising Truth…but the State is inadequate because it no longer references the Ultimate Authority which was identified in the words “In God we trust.”

We are “hard wired” to know that we need this Higher Authority to keep us on the “right road.” Morality is not something that can be decided by a majority vote. Actions are either “right or wrong” in their essence.

Even in areas of scientific discovery, such as “the earth rotates around the sun”, we may define truths without “hard or sensory data.” And because scientists, with advanced equipment have studied this and published their finding, we tend to trust them! Thus we see that even in so-called “hard science” there is an element of faith!

The same can be said for uncovering universal, moral truths. We can use reason, natural law and faith to uncover the basics. And when the Magisterium, the Pope and theologians base their statements on the whole of history, tradition and faith, we might want to obey their proclamations.

From the time of the ancient Greeks through the Middle Ages, the study of theology—with questions about, “What is the nature of God?  Why are we here? What does God expect of mankind?”—was  considered to be the highest source of knowledge. It was the basis of all learning; the “cornerstone” of understanding; the foundation for real freedom. Recognizing that there is Truth which has been revealed and can be known—this is the way to live in the Light.

Fr. Kevin makes these recommendations for change:

“The so-called ‘values clarification’ curriculum should be removed immediately from our public schools since this aggressively promotes moral relativism.  And Moral Absolutism should be preached and taught as widely as possible.”

“If the ethical relativist argues against moral absolutism for its supposed intolerance, we can argue against relativism from its real consequences…Good morality should have good consequences…the main consequence of moral relativism is the removal of moral determinants…” Relativism has led to a widespread attitude of “if it feels good, do it”, but this attitude provides transient “feel good” opportunities while in the long run it leads to emotional or physical damage for the individual and society. “Relativism has never produced a saint. Relativism has never produced a good society, only a bad one. Compare the stability, longevity and happiness of societies founded by relativists like Mussolini and Mao Tse Tung, compared to absolutists like Moses and Confucius. ..Hitler’s thousand-year Reich lasted less than a generation.”

Absolutism is traditional morality with universally binding standards of behavior. According to Fr. Kevin, “Tradition counters the small and arrogant oligarchy of the living. To be a relativist, you must believe that nearly all human beings in history have ordered their lives by an illusion. How arrogant.”

Fr. Kevin calls us to reflect on four everyday experiences that tells us morality has an Absolute, rather than a Relative, nature:

1) Morality is a call from the Good which is bigger than our individuality. Suppose you commit to helping a friend move out of an apartment which has to be done by noon and you agree to come at 8 a.m.  But you were studying late into the night and when the alarm goes off, you want to return to sleep. You will then experience two things. From within, your body says, “sleep.” But from without, you have a clear sense of obligation. You feel as if someone is saying, “Do the right thing.”

“If you get up to fulfill your promise, it will be because you chose to respond to a very different kind of thing—the perceived moral quality of the deed…What you perceive as right pulls you from without, from itself, from its own nature” of goodness, coming from the Good. “Moral absolutism is empirical.”

2) Moral Absolutes are recognized when others “do onto you.” We all feel clarity about universal standards of right and wrong, when the experience is personal. For example: if a husband breaks his promise of fidelity based on relativism, “this is what’s right for me”, he will still feel moral outrage if his wife does the same thing to him.

3) If we are to simply “live and let live,” why do relativists push their ideas so hard? Certainly they are trying to convince the world that they are and moral absolutism is wrong. If so, then there must be a real right and a real wrong! Relativists tend to have a lack of tolerance for what they see as wrong, and an “absolute” belief in their ego.

4) Quarreling about “fairness” reveals Truth. Taking a cue from C.S. Lewis, Fr. Kevin reminds us that people quarrel over what is right and wrong not because they don’t believe in it. They quarrel because they believe that an objective, universally binding truth can be known!  There are phrases in our language that seem to come unbidden: “That isn’t fair.” “What right do you have to take that?” “That was really wrong of you to do.” We use moral language everyday to praise, blame, condemn or command.  We judge.

“It is not reason, but the very abdication of reason that is the source of moral relativism. Relativism is rationalization…It is the repudiation of the principle that passions must be evaluated by reason and controlled by will,” says Fr. Kevin. Rationalizing is a childlike process—“I want it because everyone else has it.” Maturity evolves when self control and moral reasoning have developed. It is time to reintroduce our culture to these things.

Here are some action steps, gleaned from Fr. Kevin and the review of relativism:

  • Take back the language. Orwell predicted that when “good” is called “bad” we will have sold our world to the devil. “Tolerance” which is widely touted as the virtue of the day, does not actually mean we should “legalize and legitimize things anyone demands.” True tolerance is about accepting the humanity of all people, but it does not mean embracing sin. Very often, it is the people who are pushing their relativism who are the most “intolerant.”
  • The Church has 2000 years of Tradition and Authority behind her. Listen and obey.  Our young people need to know that you can’t chose to believe one thing the Church teaches and throw out the rest, without putting yourself on shaky ground. Scripture and the Church have been around a long time and can guide us to Truth, love and goodness. Why should we look elsewhere?
  •  Jesus said we would be persecuted. Prepare with prayer. When we speak up for universal Truth we can expect to be persecuted. But Jesus said, “The Truth will set you free.” We are called to be witnesses to others. To view a powerful example of witness to truth, see the YouTube video of Brian Brown, from the National Organization for Marriage, in his debate (Aug. 22, 2012) with Dan Savage, a homosexual activist. Brown went to the home of the activist to participate in a civil discussion. He demonstrates reason, civility and grace but is widely vilified in the media.

“The one truth of relativism is that everything is relative—but it is relative to God, “ says Fr. Kevin. “For He alone gives meaning and value to life… Moral Absolutists must never forget that morality, though absolute, in not ultimate. We are designed for mystical union with God. “

“The cure [for our world] must be stronger medicine than philosophy. Repent, believe and pray. I can think of nothing else that can save this civilization except saints. Please be one.”


Editor’s Note: This is Part 2 of a two-part series on Moral Relativism based on Judith Costello’s interview with Fr. Kevin Iwuoha, a priest who is in the United States “on loan” from Nigeria, and his as-yet-unpublished 400-page doctoral thesis.


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Judith Costello, MA, OCDS was a Catholic Worker and a catechist as a young adult. Then the feminist movement called to her during the 1970s-1990s and she fell away from the faith. She was sure, during those years that being a "good person" was all that God expects of us. Over the years, pride and politics took her farther and farther from the truth that God asks us to live in virtue, offer sacrifices, and come closer to Him in the sacraments.

After a divorce, Judith met a man who encouraged her to to Come Home. Judith and Jurgen now live on a small farm with two teenagers and lots of animals. Along with the children, Judith is active in the Church as a catechist, lector and sacristan. They take care of Jurgen who is now in poor health. Judith is a secular Carmelite and author of two books on Prayer and Mariology. She writes curriculum lessons for www.catechismclass.com. Her artwork in featured at www.flickr.com/photos/faithart/ and on Facebook. Judith blogs at CatholicMom.com.

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12 Comments

  1. wonderful comment…
    truth is what we need to hear…so much of what I have been getting from the Church lately is political grey goo…condescending to “individual conscience” without regard to the idea conscience has to be formed to be trusted and can be jaded and calloused. Keep up the good work, God Bless.

  2. Judith’s article on relativeism is outstanding. I was shocked at the percentage of young people who believe in this philosophy. We need to pray and work to reverse this tendency.

  3. This two series has introduce me to understand “what a relativism means” . After reading this, I am confused and afraid that I am also a “relativist”. I never thought my attitude is ‘wrong” and I realise how important is absolutism. I will start correcting myself to embrace the “absolute truth”; but it will be very long journey I guess. Thank you for such a nice series of articles. God Bless!

  4. Rosario, Thank you for writing. I want to clarify one thing…Truth and Kindness are not mutually exclusive! Truth should be presented with kindness and out of kindness. If a mother tells her adult child and “partner” they can’t share a room when visiting her house–if she says it with love and truth–that simple act may make a huge difference. Truth only spreads when it is communicated out of concern for the souls of others. Conversely, people often confuse “kindness” and “niceness.” It is actually UNKIND to let someone live a lie, in order not to offend them!

  5. Wonderful article that really decimates moral relativism. I love this quote: “The one truth of relativism is that everything is relative—but it is relative to God.” That is the part that is missing. Without him, anything goes except moral absolutes. Without those, we are lost. Thanks for sharing so much wisdom and common sense.

  6. While I believe strongly that moral relativism is prevalent and problematic, I think that assuming that specific beliefs contrary to orthodox understanding is an error. What I have found true in the beliefs of young people in particular is that they struggle with the hypocrisy and judgment they see in the church. It is not that their morals are relative, but that they value love and acceptance. Though I believe there is absolute right (and wrong), I willingly acknowledge I do not have sole and total possession of it. I believe our responsibility as people of faith is not to correct others wrong views, but to constantly endeavor to more fully understand the truth God has set forth.

    1. Bill, Two of the spiritual works of mercy are: Admonish the sinner and instruct the ignorant. As parents, we do this all the time.

      It is an act of love to help others see when they are in error. The problem for many is that we DO sometimes focus on other people’s sins rather than correcting our own, which is what you are talking about. But the two are NOT mutually exclusive. YES, I need to focus on correcting my habitual sins and YES, if the lady down the street is considering having an abortion, I should speak up. Will she listen? Can I say something that she will hear and understand? Will I have the right words? Will she become angry? I don’t know. It is best to be prayerful and humble when speaking the truth. It does not have to come across as “I am better than you” (although it will be interpreted that way by many whether you mean that or not.)

      What is happening in today’s world, is that good people do nothing for fear of being perceived as “Judgmental” or “Bigoted.” Good people start to isolate themselves more and more because, “That new law won’t affect us so why say anything about it?” Good people stand by and allow the culture to slide into moral chaos because they don’t want to act “superior” or they haven’t learned enough about the truths of our faith to say anything.

  7. Wow. Deeply wrong on every single level. It is disturbing that this is even published…

    Lets start with the first issue, which might make all the rest irrelevant. “Moral relativism takes the position there are no universal moral truths.” Yes, strong relativism does take this position. However your poll is most likely not referencing strong relativism. Based on what? Based on years of teaching thousands of students in ethics! I have not yet in all my years met a single “strong moral relativist” in any of my classes. Rather most weak relativists are such for other reasons. To quote Dwight Furrow, “most people implicitly realize that there are a variety of ways of seeing the world and what looks right or wrong from one point of view may not appear that way from another. Modestly assuming they cannot presume a gods eye point of view of how things stand… the common response is ‘what gives me the right to judge?’”

    The realization that we are not perfect, and have been mistaken in the past, is not a horrible moral failing, but proper evolution. You are bemoaning the sad behavior of your betters.

    The realization that we have been wrong in the past, about a great many things, is the heart of weak relativism, and the attempt to test and falsify moral claims rather than accept empty moral authority. A lesson you could learn before you explain the churches 2000 years of mistakes, persecution and lack of authority.

    Articles like this demonstrate exactly why the church is becoming irrelevant. The youth are becoming increasingly aware that they cannot choose some of the churches beliefs and throw out the rest. That is why they are throwing out the entire religion.

    1. It is up to us to teach the young people that the Church is a hospital for sinners, rather than encourage them to disobey and engage in consequentialist thinking. We have an obligation, as we are told in the bible in several places, to call people to repentance. The Church is correct and we have to be humble enough to admit it. The presence of sinners does not invalidate her teaching.

      There is such a thing as objective moral truth. And there is an authority to teach it to us. Jesus made it so.

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