by Sarah Reinhard | January 6, 2014 12:01 am
I love resolutions. Whether it’s an attempt at small monthly goals or the blank slate of a new year, I have always been motivated by setting goals and making plans.
That said, I’m in a stretch of zilch with resolutions. For the last few years, I haven’t made them because…well, because life is a resolution enough!
Maybe it’s the endless task lists. Maybe I’ve just relaxed too much in the years I’ve become a mom. Maybe… Well, I don’t know.
So, instead of taking a “here’s what I’ll do” approach (and I did set a few goals for the year, mind you), I thought I’d consider it differently.
Here are five things I won’t be doing this year.
Though I dearly love organization, resolving to “get organized” is a sure recipe for disaster. I can never live up to the standards in my mind, and lowering them is just. not. an. option. I need to set bite-sized goals, things that can be accomplished (perhaps even in a few hours on a Sunday).
This is a sneaky sort of thing that I often forget. I can’t change other people; I can hardly change myself! Whether it’s a daughter or a spouse, a friend or a family member, I need to focus on ME, not THEM.
It’s not going to happen if it’s not the right time. And though I don’t dispute that having goals is good and worthy and even helpful, this sort of resolution is sure to set me up for a big crash (at least at this point in my life). Maybe I’m just shooting for the wrong things… Or maybe I need to trust more. Or…well, sometimes, as I’m reminded nearly every day, there is no why. (Yoda said that first, from what I understand.)
Perhaps what makes this a failed resolution for me, every single time, is that I very rarely have room to do more. The way I add to my plate is by discernment, and it never, ever happens on January 1st. Though I have started big projects (even recently), they are less “Do More” resolutions than callings that have usually been some time in coming.
So I won’t be resolving, this year, to do more. I might end up doing more, yes. But it won’t be because I have it all figured out, whether what the “more” involves or what the “doing” is.
This is self-evident, isn’t it? Except that it’s not, at least for me. I need reminded not to resolve this. Every year.
The fact is, I will do these things I vow not to do. It’s not a question of not doing them, it’s a question of balance. It’s a question of discipline. It’s a question of building in down time.
To keep letting go and trusting God. Prayer, first and foremost. The prayer will be integrated into my daily duties, as I wash dishes or answer the phone, when I’m playing with the kids or working with my colleagues. I want to be in line with God’s will, but to do that, I have to be in conversation with Him. (Which, I’d like to add, is easier said than done for me.)
Sarah Reinhard is a Catholic wife, mom and author whose nose is probably in a book if she’s not scraping something off of her shoes. Her latest book is A Catholic Mother’s Companion to Pregnancy: Walking with Mary from Conception to Baptism. Check out all of her books at http://sarahreinhard.com/writing/my-books/.
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