How We Keep Christ in Christmas

Christmas Shopping

Christmas Shopping

“Actions speak louder than words.”  “One picture is worth a thousand words.”  “Talk is cheap.”  We have lots of different sayings that generally express the same thing–words alone are inadequate to express lots of things, especially personal messages like “I love you.”

So human beings in every culture have developed rituals to express the value they place on people and special events.   Take, for example, Turkey on the dining room table at Thanksgiving or presents under the tree at Christmas.  And then there are birthdays.  Even if all party-goers are tone deaf on the Atkins diet, we must sing the silly song and blow out the candles on that carb-laden cake!

The problem with human beings is that we have a stubborn tendency to allow rituals to become merely mechanical, forgetting their real meaning (one of the effects of original sin).  The puritanical response to this is to abolish the offending feast.  In the originally Puritan state of Massachusetts, for example, Christmas was not an official holiday until the 1890’s!  And to this day, Jehovah’s Witnesses forbid birthday celebrations.

The Catholic approach has always been different.  We accept the celebrations with their occasional excesses and their traditional trappings (even those of pagan origins such as the Christmas tree).  The goal is to revive the original meaning of the rituals or invest them with a new, Christian meaning.  In the pagan Roman world of the fourth century AD, everyone felt relief as the days once again started getting longer following the depressing darkness of the winter solstice.  So they observed Dec 25 as “the birthday of the unconquerable Sun.”  “What a great time to celebrate the birthday of the truly unconquerable Son!” thought the early Christians.  So they successfully co-opted the day.  Christmas was born.

So what do we do with America’s gift-giving extravaganza at Christmas?  It’s Jesus’ birthday, but the presents under the tree are the real focus, especially for the kids.  The first is unwrapped and then another and another, faster and faster.  It resembles a school of sharks going into a feeding frenzy.  Almost instantly the thrill is gone and the room is filled with crumpled wrapping paper (but it took so long to wrap them all!).

Rather than following the Grinch and eliminating the gifts, we set rules to make them more meaningful.  First, we try to select at least some gifts or stocking-stuffers that will help people develop their relationship with Jesus: books, CD’s, videos, rosaries, etc.  Then, on Christmas morning, before we go to the tree, we gather at the manger, sing a carol, read a brief scripture, and thank God for Jesus, the greatest gift of all.  Then we open one gift at a time, with everyone paying attention to what others get (this teaches patience!).  And we don’t open everything on the 25th.  Rather, we leave some presents wrapped and under the tree for the other 11 days of Christmas (another lesson in patience!).  We get more prayers, readings and carols around the manger this way.

On birthdays, yes, we do the cake and candles and song and gifts.  But we usually forego the noisy, expensive affairs at Chuck E. Cheese and Game Works in favor of home celebrations with just family and maybe a few friends.  And we add a few things.  First, at the birthday dinner, we go around the table and everyone shares something they particularly appreciate about the birthday boy or girl.  Next, we make it a point to celebrate the baptismal birthday which usually follows a month or so later.  We don’t do gifts again but sometimes have a cake, or at least dessert (can’t have a celebration without dessert!).  At the end of the meal, we light the baptismal candle, pull out some holy water, and baptismal vows are renewed by all with Dad asking “Do you believe in . . .” and all answering with a resounding “I do.”  Incidentally, the Church thinks so highly of this custom that it recommends it in the Handbook of Indulgences and offers a plenary indulgence to those who do it.

So we have three options on gift-giving: a) just acquiesce to the society’s way: b) say “bah-humbug!” with Scrooge and the Puritans; or c) take the traditional Catholic approach and press the custom into the service of the Gospel.  I say Catholics have more fun

Dr. Marcellino D’Ambrosio writes from Texas. For his resources on parenting and family life or information on his pilgrimages to Rome and the Holy Land, visit or call 1.800.803.0118.

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Dr. Marcellino D'Ambrosio

Dr. Marcellino D’Ambrosio writes from Texas. For his resources on parenting and family life or information on his pilgrimages to Rome and the Holy Land, visit or call 1.800.803.0118.

Raised in Italian/Irish neighborhood in Providence, RI, Marcellino D’Ambrosio never thought about being anything else but Catholic. But like other Catholic teens, his faith was the last place he looked for fulfillment. Following in the footsteps of his parents, both professional performers in their single years, Marcellino set his sights on stardom, playing bass guitar in several popular rock bands by the time he was 16. At that time he encountered a group of Catholics whose Christian life was an exciting adventure, an adventure worth living for. So he laid his bass guitar aside and embarked on a road that led to a Ph.D. in historical theology from the Catholic University of America. His doctoral dissertation, written under the direction of the renowned Jesuit theologian, Avery Cardinal Dulles, focused on one of the theological lights of the Second Vatican Council, Henri Cardinal de Lubac, and his recovery of biblical interpretation of the early Church fathers.

His writing has been published in the international journal Communio, Abingdon’s Dictionary of Biblical Interpretation, the Tablet, Catholic Digest, Our Sunday Visitor, and Catholic News Service’s syndicated column "Faith Alive." His popular book, Exploring the Catholic Church and video course by the same name (known as Touching Jesus through the Church in the USA) have been used in hundreds of parishes all throughout the English speaking world. The Guide to the Passion: 100 Questions about the Passion of the Christ, of which he is co-author and co-editor, may prove to be the fastest-selling Catholic book of all time with over a million copies sold in less than three months.

Dr. D’Ambrosio, the father of five and a business owner, brings to his teaching a practical, down-to-earth perspective that makes his words easy to understand and put into practice. Audio and video recordings of his popular teaching are internationally distributed. He often appears on the international Eternal Word Television Network is regularly heard on the nationally syndicated radio show "Catholic Answers Live." Dr. D'Ambrosio has been a guest on Geraldo Rivera, At Large on FoxNews Channel, the Bill O'Reilly radio show and Radio America's news program Dateline: Washington.

In 2001 Dr. D’Ambrosio left his position at the University of Dallas to develop the work of Crossroads Productions, the apostolate of Catholic renewal and evangelization that he co-founded twenty years ago, and to more directly oversee the growth of Wellness Opportunities Group a company dedicated to helping people improve the quality of their lives physically, mentally, and financially. He, his wife Susan, and their five children, reside just outside of San Antonio, TX.

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