If this Gospel does not make you squirm…

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When I was a kid, I got the distinct impression there existed a two-track system in Catholicism.  Some really decided to go for it.  They became priests, nuns, and brothers because they “had a vocation.”  They “gave up” lots of things.  Like marriage, family, success in business, and lots of creature-comforts.

The rest of us, however, don’t “have a vocation” and therefore don’t really need to run for the gold.  It is enough to just finish the race.  We don’t have to deprive ourselves of what most people have.  We can get married, have kids, climb the corporate ladder, acquire a vacation home and buy a boat.  We just need to go to Mass on Sunday, avoid breaking the Ten Commandments, get to confession when we fail, and basically be decent people.

A few years ago I even heard this two track system clearly laid out in a Sunday homily.  The priest said the gospel presents us with a radical Jesus and a moderate Jesus.  Some, like Mother Teresa, choose to follow the radical Jesus.  But we could pick the moderate Jesus if that was more comfortable for us.

In this Sunday’s Gospel Luke 14:25-33, Jesus gives us no such choice.  He says “NONE of you can be my disciple if he does not renounce all his possessions.”  And probably even more disturbing is this statement: “If ANYONE comes to me without turning his back on his father and mother, his wife and his children, his brothers and sisters, indeed his very self, he cannot be my follower.”

This is an up-front requirement.  If you are not willing to do this, don’t bother getting started as a disciple, he says.

Wait a minute.  I thought that good Christians are supposed to love their spouses, parents, and kids.  And how are you supposed to love your neighbor as yourself if you are renouncing both your neighbor and yourself?  Are we all supposed to leave our families, sell all of our possessions, and enter monasteries and convents?

No.  That would actually be not only irresponsible but too easy.  “Turning your back” on your family does not mean shirking the duty to care for your own.  Renouncing your very self does not mean abusing yourself .  What Jesus means is being radically detached from family, friends and self-gratification in favor of attachment to God, his truth, his will.  There is a love that is about giving and there is a love that is about enjoying.  We can never stop giving to others what is for their true and deepest good.  But there are times when we must renounce the enjoyment, opinion, and approval of others in order to be faithful to the truth.

The best way to see this is in the life of a very real person who lived out this radical vocation to holiness.  Thomas More thought joining the monks who educated him, but realized that he was called to marriage and family.  And so he took a job with the government, got married, and had kids.  He rose through government service to become the Chancellor of England under Henry VIII.  He had a magnificent mansion on the ThamesRiver where he entertained his friend the King as well some of the most famous men and women of Europe.   He had a great sense of humor, a deep relationship with his kids, a profound prayer life, and loved to write fiction, satire, and theology.

Then his boss Henry VIII divorced, remarried, and justified it by breaking allegiance with the Pope and making himself the head of the Church of England.  King Henry wanted all to take an oath swearing allegiance to his new order.  Everyone jumped on the bandwagon.  All of the bishops signed save one.  All of Thomas’s friends did the same.  But Thomas knew signing would violate his conscience, compromise his integrity, offend God, and encourage others in the doing of evil.  He loved God, self and others too much to do this.  So he lost the esteem of his friends and his king.  He resigned his position and lost his income.  He ultimately lost his head rather than deny his heart.

Few of us will enjoy the privileges enjoyed by Thomas or be called to make the same sacrifices.  But little choices, every day, arise that make plain where our true loyalties lie.

Editors Note: Reflection on the Mass readings for the Twenty-third Sunday in Ordinary Time (Year C) — Wisdom 9:13-18; Psalms 90:3-4, 5-6, 12-13, 14-17; Philemon 1:9-10, 12-17; Luke 14:25-33. This series of reflections on the coming Sunday Readings usually appears each Wednesday.


Dr. Marcellino D’Ambrosio writes from Texas. For his resources on parenting and family life or information on his pilgrimages to Rome and the Holy Land, visit www.crossroadsinitiative.com or call 1.800.803.0118.


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Dr. Marcellino D’Ambrosio writes from Texas. For his resources on parenting and family life or information on his pilgrimages to Rome and the Holy Land, visit www.crossroadsinitiative.com or call 1.800.803.0118.

Raised in Italian/Irish neighborhood in Providence, RI, Marcellino D’Ambrosio never thought about being anything else but Catholic. But like other Catholic teens, his faith was the last place he looked for fulfillment. Following in the footsteps of his parents, both professional performers in their single years, Marcellino set his sights on stardom, playing bass guitar in several popular rock bands by the time he was 16. At that time he encountered a group of Catholics whose Christian life was an exciting adventure, an adventure worth living for. So he laid his bass guitar aside and embarked on a road that led to a Ph.D. in historical theology from the Catholic University of America. His doctoral dissertation, written under the direction of the renowned Jesuit theologian, Avery Cardinal Dulles, focused on one of the theological lights of the Second Vatican Council, Henri Cardinal de Lubac, and his recovery of biblical interpretation of the early Church fathers.

His writing has been published in the international journal Communio, Abingdon’s Dictionary of Biblical Interpretation, the Tablet, Catholic Digest, Our Sunday Visitor, and Catholic News Service’s syndicated column "Faith Alive." His popular book, Exploring the Catholic Church and video course by the same name (known as Touching Jesus through the Church in the USA) have been used in hundreds of parishes all throughout the English speaking world. The Guide to the Passion: 100 Questions about the Passion of the Christ, of which he is co-author and co-editor, may prove to be the fastest-selling Catholic book of all time with over a million copies sold in less than three months.

Dr. D’Ambrosio, the father of five and a business owner, brings to his teaching a practical, down-to-earth perspective that makes his words easy to understand and put into practice. Audio and video recordings of his popular teaching are internationally distributed. He often appears on the international Eternal Word Television Network is regularly heard on the nationally syndicated radio show "Catholic Answers Live." Dr. D'Ambrosio has been a guest on Geraldo Rivera, At Large on FoxNews Channel, the Bill O'Reilly radio show and Radio America's news program Dateline: Washington.

In 2001 Dr. D’Ambrosio left his position at the University of Dallas to develop the work of Crossroads Productions, the apostolate of Catholic renewal and evangelization that he co-founded twenty years ago, and to more directly oversee the growth of Wellness Opportunities Group a company dedicated to helping people improve the quality of their lives physically, mentally, and financially. He, his wife Susan, and their five children, reside just outside of San Antonio, TX.

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3 Comments

  1. Dr. D’Ambrosio… thank you for taking the time to write this and for sharing it with others. May God continue to bless you.

  2. Thank you for this reflection on next Sunday’s gospel. As a Baptist child I memorized many of Jesus’ sayings. He says some very hard things. For much of my adult life I have been trying to figure out how to be faithful to Jesus’ words. “integrated Catholic Life” in general, and articles like this in particular, are very helpful. As our culture seems to spiral out of control in the opposite direction of our faith values as Christians, we need all the help we can get.

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