Stumbling Over My Pride

man-praying-featured-w480x300I stumbled badly over my pride yesterday, as I have done so many times in the past, and had a good laugh.  I saw the ironic humor in my own foolishness and frequent inclination to do things my way instead of God’s way.  Will I ever learn?

About a month ago, I had the brilliant idea of writing a book filled with Catholic-focused short stories which would help the reader deepen their faith.  My first three books have been well-received and I figured I would experiment and push myself as a writer.  I have written a few fictional pieces for ICL, but for some reason I felt this qualified me to tackle an entire book of fiction!  Maybe, just maybe, I could be the next Michael O’Brien (my favorite Catholic fiction author)?  Wrong.

As I labored for hours over the book proposal for the publisher and wracked my brain about how I would write the book, it became painfully obvious that it was not meant to be.  This was confirmed when I sought the counsel of two very candid writer friends who gave me the kind of straight talk which only comes from your true friends who desire what is best for you.  I now realize I am simply not a fiction writer (yet).  The audience who reads my writing would not necessarily be receptive to a Catholic fiction book from me.  My books and articles are a form of ministry and I write to help others and serve Christ, not gratify my ego.

It is clear now that I fell into the trap of stubbornly doing what I wanted and allowing my pride to run amok rather than humbly praying for the guidance of the Holy Spirit.  Instead of seeking God’s will in prayer, I was asking Him to validate a decision I already made.  I know better.

Having been in this spot before and reflecting on all the learning opportunities I have experienced over the years, you would think I’d have this figured out.  But, pride is a constant companion and a dangerous one who seeks to assert itself at every opportunity.  I recall the decades I spent in the “spiritual wilderness” before coming into the Church.  On a September Sunday at my first Mass in 2005, I experienced a “Saul on the road to Damascus” moment which was life-changing for me.  I was finally able to surrender to Christ and let go of  20+ years of pride and ego.  I gave up control to Him and received back immediately a source of strength which I can only describe as an unquenchable fire inside my heart.

Surrendering control and praying for humility is not easy and there will be countless challenges and slip ups, but we must try every day.  Despite my lapse yesterday with the flawed book idea, I am grateful that I am able to slow down, reflect and recognize my failure and sin.  I am grateful and hopeful that I will learn from the experience.  Maybe this is a sign of spiritual growth?  I pray it is.

So what does this most recent brush with my prideful side tell me?  It reminds me that praying for humility every day is necessary.  It reminds me that surrender and conversion is ongoing, and not a one-time event.  It makes me appreciate even more those candid friends who are unafraid to speak the truth.  It makes me grateful for the Sacrament of Reconciliation where I can confess my sins and be made whole.  I am most grateful for a forgiving God who loves me.

How will you deal with your prideful moments when you encounter them today?

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Randy Hain, Senior Editor and co-founder of The Integrated Catholic Life™, is the author of The Catholic Briefcase: Tools for Integrating Faith and Work which was released by Liguori Publications. The Catholic Briefcase was voted the Best Catholic Book of 2011 in the Catholicism Reader’s Choice Awards.

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  1. I really liked this post, especially as someone who also writes. Someone I met a spiritual retreat in August at the Monastary of the Holy Spirit in Conyers advised me that I should pray every time I sit down to write something and that the Holy Spirit will guide me. Great advice! –Rowena

  2. Your words of “Instead of seeking God’s will in prayer, I was asking Him to validate a decision I already made.” could very well have been written by me. I am (slowly) recognizing that the “great” accomplishments/ideas that I am striving towards (or trying to force) are probably not God’s will and often times what I hope is an act of serving others and Christ, may very well be a self-serving gratification of my own ego. I am trying to quiet the distractions and truly listen to God. I agree, our prayers for the graces to discern God’s will must be continuous as we journey through our relationship with God.

  3. I thank God for finding this article. I am at my point in my life now where I took a long break from work and career to take care of my health and my spirituality. And during this journey, I have learned to let go of my anxiety and worries in life. I thought my journey was over until one day I felt that God also wanted to heal my anger and pride. It is a difficult period. I feel like I am being stripped naked of all my pride which has been my driving force and motivation in life since I was young. I am praying everyday for guidance and humility and sometimes when I think that I can’t go on any longer (meaning, I can’t go on living without my pride) I just cry and pray. Please pray for me. I know that God is a very kind and forgiving God. Thank you.

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