I spoke to a group of teens who were preparing for the Sacrament of Confirmation. Confirmation is generally administered to 10th graders in the Atlanta Archdiocese.
The format of the talk was “Stump the Deacon!” It is one of the things I do in education that I most enjoy. The teens had written questions before I arrived and had placed them in a box for me to select at random. It did not take long for this approach to morph into an interactive Q&A and discussion session. I don’t know how it is in other places, but we have a great group of teens in our sacrament preparation programs.
As I was entering the room, I reflected on the reality that as many as one-half to two-thirds of these teens will greatly reduce and maybe even stop the practice of their faith after receiving Confirmation. Why does this happen and what can we do about it? Before I suggest what I believe to be an important ingredient to solving this question, let’s return to the Q&A session…
Of all the questions that were posed, one struck me as most important and profound. I will paraphrase it:
“How can I really know and recognize God? How will He speak to me and will I recognize His voice? What should I do when I am in the Adoration Chapel?”
The young lady who posed this question understood already that there is a difference between knowing about a person and actually knowing that person… so in being able to pose the question, she is already on her way to answering it.
“Knowing” a person implies a personal relationship. When I met my wife, I did more than simply “study” her. I spent time with her. Otherwise our relationship would never have begun and we would not have married. The same is true of our relationship with God. For us to not just know about God, but to actually know Him, we must cultivate and nurture our relationship with Him by spending time with Him in prayer… humbly, urgently, expectantly, persistently and patiently.
And therein is part of the answer to the earlier question.
Do you want to teach your children to pray? First, make sure you are praying and know how to advance in prayer… then second, show your children how by routinely praying with them and letting them see you in prayer.
Then put your prayer into action. What did Jesus teach about caring for the least of his brethren? Love God by caring for those in need all around you and make sure you involve your children. Does your parish have an annual or more frequent mission and retreat for teens. Our parish participates in the Catholic Heart Work Camp mission trips. Here, teens have the opportunity for litugical worship and communal prayer, private prayer and works of mercy. Such service works include visiting and feeding the homeless, home construction projects, nursing home visits, etc. Even in the absence of mission trips, suggest local outings and projects to care for those in need.
There is a high correlation between those teens who are involved in such missionary work and those who continue to practice their faith.
What are your experiences in keeping your teens active in the faith and at church? How have you helped a young person to deepen their love of the Lord? Share below.
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