Learning to Love our Blessed Mother

"Madonna and Child" by Sassoferrato

“Madonna and Child” by Sassoferrato

For years I have had a strong desire to write about my ever-growing appreciation and love for the Blessed Mother. Growing up as a Baptist, leaving that church as a teenager and living in a spiritual wasteland until I experienced a significant personal conversion in 2005, I never thought about Mary. Since joining the Catholic Church, I have gone through several phases in my feelings about her: mild curiosity, strong interest, education, revelation, appreciation…and now devotion and love.

What has brought about this change? How did Mary grow so significantly in my affections? Was it the death of my mother, Sandi, in 2010 which helped me draw closer to the Blessed Mother? The answer is complicated. I would love to tell you that it happened all at once in some miraculous epiphany. No, my experience has been much more gradual over the last few years, and as the phases above indicate, I had to educate myself on Mary before I knew how to love her. Today it is second nature for me to ask the Blessed Mother for her intercession and prayers, and the rosary has become an important part of my prayer life.

As we read about Mary in Scripture, the writings of the saints and early Church Fathers, our popes and more contemporary authors, we discover her vital role as the Mother of Christ, the Mother of his Church and the Mother of all humanity. Mary is the “New Eve,” and it is natural that we love and revere her. It is also appropriate and expected that we should seek out the Blessed Mother in prayer to intercede for us with her son, Jesus Christ.

The more I read about Mary and draw closer to her in my prayers, I keep coming back to three essential lessons. They are apparent in every mention of Mary in the Bible and have been explored and taught by the Church for millennia. I am talking about surrender, service, and love.

Trustful Surrender to God’s Will

I am inspired by the humility, strength, and discernment of a young teenage girl who said yes to being the mother of Christ. Her answer, freely given, was arguably the most important “yes” the world has ever known. She is the ultimate example of unconditional commitment to God’s will. Our faith requires an ongoing surrender and conversion that is often difficult to conceive and even harder to do, yet we can learn from the Virgin Mary’s lifelong example of placing God’s will first in her life.

We are also called to respond to God’s invitation, to say “yes” to a relationship with him. This is what Mary’s fiat, “Let it be done to me,” is all about. In saying “yes” to God, as Mary did, we are able to discover the path to conversion and enter into a close relationship with him. Every time I pray the rosary, I think of the annunciation and Mary’s humble surrender, and I am both reminded and encouraged that I must let go of my pride, give up control, and surrender everything to him.

Generosity and Service

The Blessed Mother does not receive that many mentions in the gospels, but two of them refer specifically to her selfless desire to help and serve others. Her visit to her pregnant cousin Elizabeth when she herself was pregnant with Jesus speaks volumes about her generosity and desire to serve. We receive the scriptural basis for the Hail Mary in Elizabeth’s timeless greeting of Mary in Luke 1:41–43: “When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the infant leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth, filled with the Holy Spirit, cried out in a loud voice and said, ‘Most blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb. And how does this happen to me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me?”

The second scriptural reference to Mary’s generosity is at the wedding of Cana in John 2:1–11. Her concern over the needs of the wedding guests and the lack of wine caused her to ask her son to help. He performs the first of his public miracles at the request of his mother and begins his public ministry. This is also a clear statement about Mary’s role as intercessor.

We can’t ignore the clear and obvious focus of her entire life—from the time of the annunciation to the assumption—was an outpouring of generosity and service as she put aside all of her personal plans and desires to do God’s will. Can we learn from Mary’s example? Where can we show generosity and selfless service in our lives today?

Love and Devotion

The Blessed Mother spent her entire life lovingly devoted to our Lord. She loved him as her son and loved him as the Savior of humanity. Mary also loves each of us…her children. At the foot of the cross, Mary was clearly identified as the Mother of mankind as we read in John 19:26–27: “When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple there whom he loved, he said to his mother, ‘Woman, behold, your son.’ Then he said to the disciple, ‘Behold, your mother.’ And from that hour the disciple took her into his home.” Mary’s pure love for her son, Jesus Christ, and her love for all of us is a wonderful example we should follow. Our prayers to the Blessed Mother help us obtain the graces we require through her intercession with our Lord and ultimately we draw closer to him through that intercession. As I reflect during my rosary or at other times when I am thinking about Mary, I am inspired to show more love toward others and deepen my devotion to my own family, friends, and the Church.

One of the reasons I have waited so long to write about our Blessed Mother is my insecurity about my knowledge of her. I am not a theologian, and fully understanding the many aspects of Church teachings about Mary’s life is a little daunting. But the truth is very few of us are theologians and we need to do the best we can to understand the role of Mary in our lives through prayer, reflection and reading. One of the best ways I know to deepen our understanding of (and connection to) Mary is to faithfully pray the rosary…every day if possible. Saying the prayers, reflecting on the mysteries and asking for her intercession has been a blessing for me and a real source of comfort and peace.

I don’t know how you feel about Mary. You may have a growing reverence and love for her or you may mumble and rush through saying the Hail Mary. Wherever you are, I encourage you to learn more about the Blessed Mother, go to her often in prayer, ask for her holy intercession with her Son and simply…love her. My faith has grown over the last few years in part because my love for Mary has grown as well.

Blessed John Paul II once said, “From Mary we learn to surrender to God’s will in all things. From Mary we learn to trust even when all hope seems gone. From Mary we learn to love Christ, her Son and the Son of God.” This is a beautiful and eloquent summation of the powerful role the Blessed Mother plays in our faith and our relationship with her Son, Jesus Christ.

Memorare

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection,
implored thy help or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired with this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins my Mother;
to thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful;
O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions,
but in thy clemency hear and answer me.

Amen.

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Adapted from Along the Way: Lessons for an Authentic Journey of Faith with permission of Liguori Publications and Randy Hain.


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Randy Hain, Senior Editor and co-founder of The Integrated Catholic Life™, is the author of The Catholic Briefcase: Tools for Integrating Faith and Work which was released by Liguori Publications. The Catholic Briefcase was voted the Best Catholic Book of 2011 in the About.com Catholicism Reader’s Choice Awards.

Randy Hain’s exciting new book, Along the Way: Lessons for an Authentic Journey of Faith was  released by Liguori Publications in November, 2012. Along the Way was recently named Runner-Up in the About.com Catholicism Reader’s Choice Awards for Best Catholic Book of 2012. Learn more here. His third book, Something More: A Professional’s Pursuit of a Meaningful Life, was released in February, 2013. All of Randy Hain’s books can also be purchased at your local Catholic bookstore, Amazon or www.liguori.org.


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  1. I had an experience last year during a low spot in a lengthy health crisis in which Mary made herself known to me by leaving an Our Lady of Guadalupe medal in my presence where it had not been a moment before. I realized she knew my troubles, was watching over me, and let me know she was with me regardless of what was to come. Often, that realization was the only thing that kept me going. If this is not a testament of a mother’s love, I don’t know what is. My relationship with her has been forever changed as a result. A more detailed account of the encounter is on my website, http://www.colorsoffaith.com.

  2. I have started praying the rosary daily and I too enjoy the great peace and time for reflection it gives. When done, I find myself feeling very calm with my priorities for the day straight :). I love knowing that I can go to her and ask her intercession for anything.

  3. Nice article! As a former evangelical for most of my life, developing a love and devotion to Our Blessed Motherhas taken time. I too initially struggled and was envious of cradle Catholics who lived and breathed the rosary and spoke of Mary with warm affection . I began to pray that Jesus would help me love Mary the way he does . It’s been 9 years and I believe he has started answering that prayer . The rosary is helpful as well as the many popes writings, jp2 especially . Thanks

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