Time Management for Busy Moms

“How do you do it all?”

People ask busy mothers this all the time. Time management is an important yet elusive goal. Everyone wants to know “the secret.”  I’ve been blessed to know some very holy and efficient mothers. Let me introduce a couple to you and then we’ll talk strategy.

My mother had thirteen children, yet always found time to read to us, spend time with us and do special projects with us. I remember taking ceramics classes with her, a self-defense class with her, spending time baking with her, and just chatting over coffee with her. Yet, she is known for her immaculate house and penchant for perfectly ironed clothes.  Mom (and Dad) also found time to foster parent, and made time to welcome into their home a couple of unwed pregnant teenagers for a short time.

Mom is not an organization-joiner. You won’t find her name on the board of directors of any agencies. She is what I call a “fill-in-the-gapper”. Mom’s strategy is like the Nike advertisement slogan: Just Do It. She doesn’t fret a lot about how she is going to accomplish her many duties. She simply prioritizes, makes a list and digs in.

My friend Andrea is another such efficient mom. She is a former college professor turned stay-at-home, home-schooling mom (for sixteen years at last count). She and her husband are raising six children. Her oldest is a member of the United States Coast Guard. She’s managed to squeeze in reviewing books, and running a website of resources for other moms. Did I mention that she has a PhD in psychology, has written some educational diagnostic learning style tests and runs a small academy in New York? Andrea arranges her day around an ‘Avilian’ (as in St. Teresa of Avila) method. She looked to the disciplined example of the Carmelite sisters and studied their schedules. They have a firm yet realistic schedule. They create time to pray and even to relax. Space doesn’t allow me to explain this system entirely in this column, but suffice it to say that planning and following a daily rhythm, as well as putting God first, are key components.

Look around and I’m sure you’ll see many other examples of motivating Catholic mothers. Don’t be intimidated by them. Be inspired by them! Pull them aside and pick their brains when you have the opportunity. I’m sure they won’t mind.

Now, let’s talk strategy. Here’s what I’ve learned:

  1. Relax. Being stressed doesn’t help accomplish anything. A peaceful demeanor actually improves efficiency.
  2. Start your day with a prayer. Ask God for help in prioritizing and implementing your plan. Ask ahead for His guidance and strength. Thank Him for the blessing of the children He has trusted you with and the husband who will help you gain heaven. (One major purpose and function of marriage, remember, is to help each other get to heaven!)
  3. Set goals, prioritize and tackle one thing at a time. Don’t focus on something other than the task at hand. In other words, don’t fret about the messy basement when you are writing checks to pay the bills or reading your child a story.
  4. Use a list and check off tasks as you accomplish them.
  5. Always put people before things and projects, even worthwhile things and projects.
  6. Be flexible and trust God.

I like to keep a small notebook in my apron or jeans pocket so it is handy to write down everything I think of or need to handle that comes up during the day. I transfer relevant items to my master goal list, which I compile each month and from which I pull off daily goals.

My long-term goals are probably much like yours:

  • Maintain daily communication with God. Frequent the sacraments. (Tend to spiritual health)
  • Nurture relationships with husband, family and friends (Tend to social and emotional health)
  • Exercise (Tend to physical health)
  • Keep a generally clean and uncluttered home
  • Prepare nutritious meals daily
  • See to the proper education of children
  • Tackle other projects of interest and need.

Managing time is a constant adjustment for me. I succeed. I fail. I adjust. I keep going. I learn from other smart moms.

A couple other observations: many efficient Catholic mothers hardly ever watch television, not because television is so bad (which it can be at times?, but because there is so much more that is edifying to do, even if it is just having a conversation. Also, remember God did not intend for us to be machines. We should make time for relaxing and rejuvenating. Actually, that’s what Sunday is for!

I’d like to finish with an inspirational quote. Stick it on your refrigerator and read it often: “I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13) I can, you can, and He will. And that’s the most important time management principle to know.

 


 

Theresa Thomas is the co-author Stories for the Homeschool Heart (Bezalel Books, 2010 & winner of About.com Best Catholic Book of 2010), family columnist at Today’s Catholic News and a contributing writer for the Integrated Catholic Life™.


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Theresa A. Thomas is a happy Catholic, wife to David, and home-schooling mother of nine children, ages five to 22. She is a columnist (“Everyday Catholic”) for Today’s Catholic newspaper, and occasional freelance writer and speaker. Her work has appeared the National Catholic Register, Michiana Family Magazine, Catholic Exchange, Family Foundations, home school newsletters and other national and local publications. She was a story contributor to Amazing Grace for Mothers, Amazing Grace for Fathers, Amazing Grace for Families (Ascension Press) and is currently collaborating with Patti Maguire Armstrong on “Stories for the Homeschool Heart”, to be published by Bezalel Books in July, 2010. Theresa grew up the oldest of 13 children in the Midwest, and graduated magna cum laude from Saint Mary’s College, Notre Dame, IN with a BA in English. She is owner and administrator of 'Ora et Labora', Catholic home-education message board, and was appointed by Fort Wayne/South Bend Bishop John D’Arcy to serve as a member of St. Joseph High School Board of Education and Catholic identity sub-committee in 2003. She has been home schooling since 1996. Catholic education and curriculum, fitness, healthy living, saints, homemaking, reading, and assisting her husband and children reach their goals are Theresa’s primary interests. She enjoys helping her husband raise chickens and grow organic vegetables…and kids.

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