Comments on: Six Practical Means to Overcome Sins and Faults of the Tongue http://www.integratedcatholiclife.org/2011/10/ask-a-carmelite-six-practical-means-to-overcome-sins-and-faults-of-the-tongue/ A Catholic e-Magazine about Integrating Faith, Family & Work Mon, 21 May 2012 05:01:26 -0400 hourly 1 By: oCDs01-814 http://www.integratedcatholiclife.org/2011/10/ask-a-carmelite-six-practical-means-to-overcome-sins-and-faults-of-the-tongue/comment-page-1/#comment-4641 oCDs01-814 Wed, 16 Nov 2011 18:06:33 +0000 http://www.integratedcatholiclife.org/?p=14259#comment-4641 I love the response of Rachal W. October 26! The guarding of my tongue is a virtue I desire, but which I sadly lack. Even when I'm aware of it in a situation, I sometimes hear myself contributing. I must take this awakened-awareness most seriouly and watch the temptations that abound. Pray for me. I love the response of Rachal W. October 26! The guarding of my tongue is a virtue I desire, but which I sadly lack. Even when I’m aware of it in a situation, I sometimes hear myself contributing. I must take this awakened-awareness most seriouly and watch the temptations that abound. Pray for me.

]]> By: Rachel W. http://www.integratedcatholiclife.org/2011/10/ask-a-carmelite-six-practical-means-to-overcome-sins-and-faults-of-the-tongue/comment-page-1/#comment-4295 Rachel W. Wed, 26 Oct 2011 20:21:03 +0000 http://www.integratedcatholiclife.org/?p=14259#comment-4295 As if I could add anything to what Fr. Dubay has to say - but another point comes with 'complaining' (perhaps a dimension of comfort-seeking). Too often, I hear or am myself guilty of complaining about a situation to anyone and everyone who would listen. During confession, a good priest asked me to reflect on if I was talking to someone who could actually solve the problem. If I was, temper my words so as not to be 'too whiny' but just describe the problem and seek a solution together. BUT, if I wasn't (and I usually wasn't) stop. I was told to reserve my comments only to one who could actually solve the problem (i.e. a boss, the committee chair, the teacher) and no one else (another parent, employee, etc.). It is hard work but I'm getting there! I do this in our family as well - complaints come only to The Complaint Dept. - Mom and Dad. It does no good to complain about your chores or homework to your siblings as they can't solve the problem. Complaining just brings a dark cloud in the house. As if I could add anything to what Fr. Dubay has to say – but another point comes with ‘complaining’ (perhaps a dimension of comfort-seeking). Too often, I hear or am myself guilty of complaining about a situation to anyone and everyone who would listen.

During confession, a good priest asked me to reflect on if I was talking to someone who could actually solve the problem. If I was, temper my words so as not to be ‘too whiny’ but just describe the problem and seek a solution together. BUT, if I wasn’t (and I usually wasn’t) stop. I was told to reserve my comments only to one who could actually solve the problem (i.e. a boss, the committee chair, the teacher) and no one else (another parent, employee, etc.). It is hard work but I’m getting there!

I do this in our family as well – complaints come only to The Complaint Dept. – Mom and Dad. It does no good to complain about your chores or homework to your siblings as they can’t solve the problem. Complaining just brings a dark cloud in the house.

]]> By: WEDNESDAY AFTERNOON EDITION | ThePulp.it http://www.integratedcatholiclife.org/2011/10/ask-a-carmelite-six-practical-means-to-overcome-sins-and-faults-of-the-tongue/comment-page-1/#comment-4291 WEDNESDAY AFTERNOON EDITION | ThePulp.it Wed, 26 Oct 2011 17:51:32 +0000 http://www.integratedcatholiclife.org/?p=14259#comment-4291 [...] Six Practical Means to Overcome Sins & Faults of the Tongue - Sr. Laus Gloriae OCD, ICL™ [...] [...] Six Practical Means to Overcome Sins & Faults of the Tongue - Sr. Laus Gloriae OCD, ICL™ [...]

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