Marriage and the New Religion

Wedding Rings“We’re pregnant with another girl”, Levin announced with a grin. 

“That’s great, I bet you and your wife are excited”, I responded, anticipating a family comment. 

“Well, I’m not married, we just live together.”

“Oh, are you going to get married to her?” I asked this, hoping it wouldn’t offend him. 

“No plans now, it seems a bit old fashioned, besides, we’re happy anyway.” Levin added, “We have a house… children, why bother paying for a piece of paper (marriage certificate)?”  

Now I had to ask, “Why do you think living together has a higher breakup rate than traditional marriage?”  

Then it hit me, he thinks the institution of marriage is outdated and no longer necessary.  I decided to change the topic to avoid our business dinner becoming awkward as I had traveled all the way to Europe to see him.  There we were, having dinner in Brussels discussing business; but his comment remained with me the rest of the night.  I started thinking Levin represents a new attitude among young people that seemed to be a kind of new religion that has quietly seeped into the collective conscious in the secular world.  It’s disguised as freedom but cloaked in rebellion.  It requires no church, no priest, no formal book and becomes pervasive in its impact on the institution of marriage.  It was apparent that traditions crumble in the face of this new religion.

“What about the classic wedding in Church, what every bride dreams of…..”, I innocently asked him. 

“That seems to be an American thing; people over here hardly even go to church anymore”, he exclaimed. 

I wondered aloud, “I thought Belgium was a Catholic country?”

“Well, most people are Catholic by tradition only and hardly go to church anymore”, Levin delivered a low blow. 

Perplexed, I asked him, “What do these people believe in?”

At this point, my mind was racing with a heavy heart.  It seemed that Catholic Europe has left the faith.  The Altar of this new religion sacrifices truth for feelings… absolutes for moral relativism.  Getting along, tolerance is the highest moral standard, even if you have to compromise your standards. 

In my mind, the Catholic Church still stood for high moral standards, ideals that have been woven into Europe’s culture for centuries.  How has this great area of the world slipped into secularism?  This one encounter typifies statistics these days that being Catholic is typical but practicing the faith is not. The Church has offered charity to the poor, mercy for the unloved, hope in this world of sin and despair, and moral clarity to the confused.  The institution of traditional marriage is upheld in the Church as a permanent sacramental union between husband and wife.  Jesus comes to us and speaks to us through the Church in the Sacraments.

My concern is that apathy leads to the possibility that nothing is true and we can never know.  People will no longer recognize sin in the world and will confuse good and evil.  The pursuit of pleasure will consume us to love what is temporary and miss the unconditional love of Christ which is everlasting.  We’ve already changed our language to relieve the guilty of the burdens of word – for example, like “affair” replaced “adultery”.  Many European Universities that the Catholic Church established are now teaching philosophy from the Enlightenment and not philosophy from the Age of Faith.  Voltaire over Aquinas is a formula for the elites and this questions the faith of our fathers.  My prayer is that young people return to the Church… that engaged couples will recognize and embrace the time-tested benefits of Holy Matrimony and that God’s blessings will continue to grace the Church through the sacrament of Holy Matrimony.

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Mike Carlton was born in Buffalo, NY. He married his college sweetheart Laurie and has six children. They were married in Ohio in 1991 and live in a suburb of Atlanta, GA. He is the son of the former NFL football star Wray Carlton. Mike currently works as the Global Vice President of MiMedx, a worldwide orthopedic biologics company in medical devices.

He graduated in 1989 from Miami University, Oxford OH with a B.S degree in Marketing and studied in the M.B.A program at Xavier University, Cincinnati OH. He earned an archdiocesan Catechetical Teaching Certificate for the Catholic Archdiocese of Atlanta in 2003.

Mike was raised Presbyterian and converted to the Catholic Church in 2002. In 2003, he started the apologetics ministry called “Why Catholic” at his parish, St. Peter Chanel, Roswell GA. In addition, Mike and Laurie help start, with Deacon Mike Bickerstaff, MAC “Marriages Are Covenants”, a ministry outreach program of the Integrated Catholic Life for married couples. He has been interviewed on the Sacred Heart Radio Program, the “Deep in Scripture” program on EWTN radio, and has been an invited guest on the “Journey Home” television program on EWTN. A popular speaker, Mike has given his conversion talk around the Archdiocese of Atlanta.

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  1. If I had to make a guess, marriage seems out-dated and irrelevant because most people who get married end up breaking up just like people who hadn’t gotten married, and the ones who didn’t didn’t have to deal with the lawyers and paperwork and what not.

    His point that they are “happy” supports that idea as well – as long as they are happy, why change anything? It seems like most people want to get married to be “happy” and leave when they are no longer “happy” i.e. marriage is a thing that is meant to convey worldly pleasure. By extension, the person you marry is supposed to make you happy – that is their duty in life. I think, however, that most people don’t consider the corollary – that the person they marry expects them to make them happy as well. The relationship becomes one-sided on both sides, and when the other person ceases to make you happy, you split.

    Were we to see marriage in its true light – an institution designed to help the spouses get each other and their children into heaven, I think marriage would no longer be “out-dated” or “irrelevant”. The duty of the spouses would be to serve the other, because love always chooses the well-being of the other even over one’s own well-being. When both spouses serve the other, both spouses end up being served. Such a relationship is permanent and joyful, even if every particular moment isn’t “happy”.

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