Living an Advent Culture

Photography by Paul Johnson

It’s that time again. The Christmas lights and decorations are adorning the grocery stores and coffee shops, and the radio stations are playing holiday music round-the-clock. The frenzied shopping kicked off early this year—beginning even before the dreaded Black Friday, with some stores creeping into family time on Thanksgiving in order to seize the avid shoppers with the most attractive deals that you “just can’t get anywhere else” (except, of course, at all of the other stores who are offering those not-so-one-of-a-kind deals).

If you don’t think it is hard to create and live an Advent culture in the midst of a commercialized holiday season, you aren’t hitting that counter-cultural stride hard enough yet.

The root of the word culture is “cult.” Today, most of us think of the word “cult” by its staunchly negative connotation, and in one sense of its definition, it is negative, when it refers to false or unorthodox beliefs. But cult also refers to, more basically, a particular set of beliefs or system of worship, a way of life embodied by an institutional group giving itself to a certain object of devotion. When the Advent season rolls around, we see two primary and opposing cults: the Christian Advent cult and the postmodern secular cult.

One cult worships the God made man. One worships the god of materialism. One believes in self-sacrifice in preparation for the coming of a King. One believes in self-embellishment in preparation for the coming of even more mass consumption and consumerism. One welcomes Christ; the other welcomes increased spending. One sings “O come, O Come Emmanuel;” the other, “Here Comes Santa Claus.”

As Christians, it is our duty to make our cult look altogether different from the secular cult this Advent season. But sometimes we get so caught up in the buying and eating, the busyness and distractions of the big department stores and holiday markdowns that we forget that we are fundamentally different from those who are celebrating the Happy Holidays of purchasing and baking, but not the Merry Christmas of the coming of the Messiah, the Christ who gives meaning to our Christmases—and to our whole lives.

It’s easy to overlook the fact that Advent is a lot like Lent. All the holiday joy, bells, lights, singing, and hustle-bustle around us often makes it hard to focus on prayerful preparation for the greater feast that awaits us at the end of a penitential period, which Advent is. In an Advent culture, the Christian is called to do some spiritual cleanup in his or her life, which often involves increased fasting and almsgiving. Imagine that! Eating less and putting material goods in their place during the weeks leading up to Christmas…the Advent cult is counter-cultural! All of these practices are meant to contain the Christian’s joy in anticipation for the excitement that comes on that special Christmas day, when we celebrate the greatest gift ever given to us—a gift that came wrapped in swaddling clothes and attracting little attention, not ornamented with shiny ribbons and advertised for on all the cable TV channels.

Don’t get me wrong. As Christians, we are meant to be in the world, which allows us to celebrate the Advent season by adopting some of the best secular traditions, which really isn’t “adopting” so much as it is taking back the celebrations that rightfully belonged to Christians in the first place before they were stripped of their spiritual dimension, giving them far less intrinsic significance.

So how can we create and live an Advent culture?

When you are buying your Christmas gifts, don’t forget the poor. Jesus has a special place in His heart for those who serve the poor; after all, Jesus himself was born into poverty. Perhaps you can even get your children to pool their change and donate some of their own money during the Advent season…it’s a good habit to start forming early.

  • In the midst of your holiday eating, try to include the truly hungry among those you feed, and not only your already-pretty-well-satisfied family, friends, and neighbors.
  • Increase prayer. This is how to prepare your heart for Jesus’ coming. Dive deeper into Scriptures and come to know and love the God who became incarnate for you. Pray more as a family or with your community of friends. Spend time together reflecting on the Gospels, other articles, and writings of the saints that help you approach Advent with determination to make it your culture this December.
  • Increase fasting and penance. The goal here is to cleanse yourself of sin so that you have a pure gift of self to offer Christ at Christmas. That’s what He really wants from you—YOU. (Sound familiar? Prayer, fasting, and almsgiving…I told you Advent was a lot like Lent!)
  • Make sure that in addition to your Christmas tree and strings of lights, you have those holy symbols in and around your house, too. Have your kids (or you!) count down the days of Advent with an Advent calendar, place an Advent wreath on your dinner table to light and pray around as a family before meals, and display a Nativity scene. One fun thing my mom used to have us do as kids—and a tradition that still continues today—is to start the three wise men far away from the manger scene, and move them closer and closer to the manger as the Epiphany draws near. Their inching closer and closer to the foot of Christ helps remind us each day of our preparedness to meet Jesus. One other family tradition we had was to do random acts of kindness for each other throughout Advent, even some little act like finishing a chore which our mom had started or making our sister’s bed. We’d place a gold star on the pillow of the person whom we “targeted” with our kind deed, so they could take a turn to do it for another family member. I’m sure you have your own traditions that build an Advent culture in your own home. Just don’t forget about them this year, and distinguish your household as one in the Advent cult.
  • And please, please keep the word “Christmas” in your vocabulary and in your written wishes this year. How is anyone supposed to know which culture we are living if we keep the reason for our season out of the season’s greetings?

This Advent, do those things which advance you on your journey toward that Star shining above the humble manger where our Blessed Mother will give birth to our Messiah, who will grow up, preach and heal, suffer, die, and rise to bring you the enduring gift of everlasting life.

Pope John Paul II once said, “The Word who found a dwelling in Mary’s womb comes to knock on the heart of every person with singular intensity this Christmas.”

Will you be ready when He knocks?

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Katie Warner is a Catholic wife, stay-at-home mother, speaker, writer, and evangelist who is passionate about taking small steps toward a more meaningful and spiritual life, and helping others do the same.

She is the author of Head & Heart: Becoming Spiritual Leaders for Your Family (Emmaus Road Publishing, Fall 2015), a book that offers practical strategies and inspiring stories to help men and women better lead and love their families toward heaven.

Katie writes and speaks about a variety of spiritual and practical topics, and has presented in venues like the National Catholic Bible Conference and numerous Legatus chapters, the Eucharistic Congress of Atlanta, EWTN radio, and on EWTN television. She is also a presenter for the Symbolon RCIA and Opening the Word programs produced by the Augustine Institute. Katie is one of the original contributing writers for The Integrated Catholic Life and a correspondent for the National Catholic Register.

Katie works very part-time (usually during toddler naps and late at night) as the Manager of Communication and Evangelization for Catholics Come Home, a national Catholic evangelism apostolate working to invite fallen-away Catholics and non-Catholics home to the Catholic Church. She holds a graduate degree in Catholic Theology, specializing in Evangelization and Catechesis, from the Augustine Institute in Denver, Colorado. Her favorite ministry work—and day-job—is family life, and she enjoys homemaking and mothering in sunny Southern California, where she lives with her husband and son.

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